It’s not people around us we need, is it? We GOT people around us. Wanting, needing, working, talking, bossing, criticizing. Sometimes even fun or helpful. Lots and lots of people.
No, what we are LONELY for is someone who GETS us. KNOWS us. LOVES us anyway. Someone to talk to who listens, cares. Doesn’t turn it back to themselves. Who doesn’t tell us what we are doing WRONG, but encourages us towards what we wanna do RIGHT. Who NOTICES. THINKS to ask or pray before we ask. O, we do get so lonely for that don’t we? So disappointed when we don’t get it from those around us.
We know God is there for us in that way. But our hearts ache for someone with skin on ‘em. Someone walking through the same trials of Life WITH us every day. Who KNOWS what it’s like, and can hear us, love us, help us when we share our joys and pains. Can speak our language.
A deep heartache that persists even as we learn to let God fill us with His Spirit in our journey with Him. In spite of good “church friends” and loyal husbands even. A void.
Well, it took a lot of research and development over many years, but I have the CURE!
Many opportunities and tears, testing and re-testing. The results are IN:
GIVE what you NEED!
GIVE what you never GOT!
Yup. The only thing that works. Guaranteed.
God already GAVE us what we NEED or we wouldn’t still be here. The joy and blessings will come when we give to others. THAT is the cure for “lonely.”
So take those teary empty places and hold them up to the Lord and tell Him you will GIVE it instead, however it is His will. Thank Him, praise Him, ask Him to turn it all to His good purpose: building His body, His “church.” His forever Kingdom.
The phone will ring. The knock on the door will come. The letter, the “look” at a get-together. And you will find yourself with someone ELSE who needs what you have to give. Who needs what you have mourned. And when you GIVE it to THEM, your own heart will smile. That raw little ache of YEARNING will turn into the warm peace of GIVING.
I never get over it. Forget to do it, waste hours missing it. And then when I do it for someone ELSE I prove it to myself again.
It works. EVERY. SINGLE. TIME.
When will I learn?
God couldn’t have put it plainer. It will all be treasure in heaven. But our default flesh drags our attention back to our own needs all the time. As if that worked!
Nope. The ANSWER is:
GIVE WHAT YOU NEVER GOT.
And learn what feels even BETTER than the pipe dream. And enriches the blessings you already know you have in our Lord.
Read these verses yourself, just to be sure. WE always thought He meant MONEY. And knew we didn’t have much. NOPE. He means GIVE what you DO have. You can GIVE someone who needs it your love, your acceptance, your listening heart. Whether they give back or not. Whether they love you or not. You can GIVE WHAT YOU NEVER GOT. And be blessed.
Not to mention the riches you store up in Heaven!
Acts 20:35 – “He Himself said, ‘It is more blessed to give than to receive.'”
Proverbs 21:26 – “The righteous gives and does not hold back.”
Luke 3:11 – “And he would answer and say to them, ‘The man who has two tunics is to share with him who has none; and he who has food is to do likewise.'”
12 Corinthians 9 – ” God loves a cheerful giver. And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that always having all sufficiency in everything, you may have an abundance for every good deed.”
Luke 6:38 – “Give, and it will be given to you. They will pour into your lap a good measure, pressed down, shaken together, and running over. For by your standard of measure it will be measured to you in return.”